school didn't teach us

6 Life-Changing Skills I didn’t Learn in School

In a perfect world, we go to school and come out ready to contribute to the world in a meaningful way. Imagine my surprise when I left school only to find out how little I knew about social skills, self-awareness, corporate politics and setting goals in life.

The school didn’t teach me many of the important life lessons I needed to succeed as a human being. Of course, it taught me important stuff like math, physics, history, English, Swedish but also to some level how to interact with others. School is an important part and you learn a lot from that time.

BUT there are some things I wish I learned more of back in the days

None of my teachers told me how important it is to invest in yourself. It would have been nice to know that going to university did not guarantee me success.

You are taught values through different channels in life that society deceives us – which is not true!

Outside of physics and the rule of law, all other rules are illusions that we’ve chosen to believe. Smash the ones that no longer serve you.

Vishen Lakhiani

I was especially shocked to find out how hard it was to get a good job after spending 14 years in school. Sure, there were a lot of jobs available. It was so disappointing when I realized that most of them were menial positions that I qualified for before going to university.

1. Self-promotion and Marketing Yourself

The school didn’t teach me about how important self-promotion is. It wasn’t until I started digging into articles and books about how to get a job and career or personal development that I realized I would have to spend a lot of my time networking and further training to open new doors for me.

It wasn’t enough to have a resume at hand. It takes dedication and consistent work and to learn new things. The more I read over the years, the more I realized how much school didn’t teach me. The things I actually wanted to know.

2. The Importance of Setting Goals in Life and to Invest in Yourself

It wasn’t like I had no goals in life. I did. But, they were vague goals. More or less what society told me, like getting a job that pays well and to buy a house. My life goals were a lot like my friend’s. I compared with others and went for what they wanted rather than looking for what I want.

It wasn’t until later that I realized I needed to set smaller activity goals designed to help me accomplish larger goals. According to articles, books I read about goal setting, you have to stop thinking small and start thinking big in order to reach what you really want. A big goal should make you a little scared and excite you at the same time!

The first time I read the words “invest in yourself,” I didn’t understand what they meant. I thought the author was referring to saving money for investment purposes. Finally, I got it. I needed to spend money on personal development. Invest in YOU means everything that makes you grow as a person. In every aspect of your life.

3. Different Types of Income

Another thing school didn’t teach me was about the different types of income. School prepared me to work in a typical career position for a company. In finance, we never discussed passive income (money can work for you) opportunities, real estate flipping profits and YouTube revenue and more. There are so many ways to earn and invest money today.

But it is never to late to learn new skills

Essentially, the university prepared me to work for a traditional company trading my time for money. Thanks to the digital landscape, I discovered later in life there are other ways to earn a living today.

4. How to Handle Failure

One of the most difficult things I had to learn was how to emotionally deal with disappointment and failure. When I had a bad day, lost money, made a mistake at work or disappointing news about a lost opportunity that I really wanted, it would floor me. I’d drop out of circulation for a while instead of shrugging it off and quickly moving on to my next time at-bat.

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

Michael Jordan

Instead of a focus on the correct answer, we should focus more on the person’s ability to think. The person with most ideas wins! Failure is an important part of our life that gives you time to reflect, reassess the strategy and to start over.

  • Failure gives you ideas to succeed.
  • Failure test your grit (a book about the subject, Grit by Angela Duckworth
  • Failure gives you experience
  • Failure really makes us learn

5. How to handle money

When setting your goals in life, you have to have a clear investment strategy. How to handle your private finances is for most people not fun but an important part of our life. Considering the value of compounding and how quickly it can increase your personal wealth.

Schools tend to teach economics, finance etc but fail to teach us the importance of saving, investing, how to keep your own budget or the basics of managing your money.

With the right strategies, with the right mindset and investment for your money, you can improve your life.

6. How to find and pursue what you love

For several years I spent my time working for the highest bidder. I believed work was primarily about making money. The school didn’t teach me the value of self-awareness (find out what you want in life).

One of my major goals in life these days is to always do something I love. Are you doing what you love? If you want to learn more about this subject, I have written another post about this here.

Summary

When I finally learned to listen to the advice to invest in yourself and set goals in life that both excited me and scared me a little, my life immediately improved. I think school should prepare us to get a running start on a path to fulfillment both emotionally and financially.

This means to teach our children, teenagers early to follow what they are interested in and improve their strengths rather than their weaknesses and that failure is the key to success.

Drop a comment if you find this helpful.

overcome negative thinking

To People That Want To Start Overcome Negative Thinking

Negative thinking results in so many, well, negative outcomes. Not only does it cause the things that we’re negatively thinking about to be more apt to come true, but it also cripples our ability to enjoy anything and drains our energy. Fortunately, all is not doom and gloom.

You have the power to overcome negative thinking. Doing so may not occur overnight, but, bit by bit, you can gradually experience more positive thinking to counterbalance the predominantly negative thinking that you currently suffer from. 

Think of negative thoughts like a bucket filled with water. The bucket is the brain and the water is all of your emotions anger, joy, happiness, sadness. The negative thinking is like holes in the bucket which drains your energy. What is left is nothing more than emptiness. But there are ways to fill those holes.

Closure Letters

I have not actually done this myself but I have heard it be an awesome way to clear your head. So, if you’re struggling because of ways that others have negatively impacted you, consider writing closure letters. You don’t need to send them, and, in some cases, you shouldn’t, but simply writing them will help you get your feelings out and start to move on from them, from what had occurred to you. When you do this, be clearheaded and sober.

Although it may prove impossible to remove all emotionality from what you’re doing, do your best to think of this person and what occurred in more rational, objective ways. But do write from your heart too. Also, consider forgiving this person if you want to, but only if you want to, and apologizing if there is a reason to do so. 

Gratitude For What You Have

It’s understandable for it to be difficult to look at the positive things going on in your life when it feels like your mind is overwhelmed with negative thoughts, but do your best to. Think of the things that you are grateful for. Perhaps you have a roof over your head and enough money coming in to eat. You have a family that cares for you.

If so, be thankful for that. Having others who care for you is another reason to practice gratefulness. Simply being alive is one too. Embrace the small things as well. Do you often pass an area with beautiful greenery but had never appreciated it because you got so used to it? Now’s the time to start doing so. 

Create a morning routine. This is my own routine I do each day when I wake up.

1. Drink a glass of water
2. Meditate for 5-10 min
3. Writing down three things I’m grateful for
4. Writing 5 min in my journal about one good experience in the last 24 hours.
5. Reading

Exercise

Exercise can be a great way to overcome negative thinking. This does come with a caveat, however. You should be wary of doing too much exercise too soon as burnout will have the opposite effect.

However, exercising in a manner that you’re comfortable with and is not significantly more than you currently do can do wonders for your mood as exercise, in more cases than not, causes lower levels of anxiety and depression, deeper sleep and more relaxation. Find a type of exercise that you enjoy to increase the odds that it’ll be something that you’ll want to continue doing for the long haul, making this a long-term mood improver. 

Take time for the things that you love

Make sure to set time aside for the things that you love. If you find yourself not enjoying much of anything anymore, consider revisiting things that you used to love as well as seeking out new experiences to see if something different will result in a newfound love. Note that there’s no such thing as a love that’s too small or inconsequential. If you love it, you love it. 

Eating healthy

Just like exercise, eating healthy can do so much good in helping you overcome negative thinking as your diet has a profound impact on your emotional state. Think of food for your brain like fuel for your car. You want high-quality fuel so that your car runs well.

You should want the same for your brain. Foods to avoid are processed and refined foods as well as those high in sugar. Focus on fruits, vegetables, and lean meats to help you overcome negative thinking. 

Give

Although giving to others without asking for anything in return is a selfless act, the giver does get to experience positive health benefits too. Scientifically, this act activates the mesolimbic system, which results in greater levels of self-esteem and satisfaction with life.

Note that these benefits are much more likely to be felt by those who are truly volunteering – i.e. they’re not doing so because it’s required for one reason or another. 

Nature walks

I love taking time and being in nature. Going for a walk in a natural setting can do such good for your mental state and help you overcome negative thinking. In fact, some say that this is the absolute best thing that you can do to improve your mood.

Doing this is especially recommended if you recently experienced a traumatic life event as studies have shown that the benefits of a nature walk on those individuals are even more pronounced. When you go out into natural settings, do your best to get lost in the moment, in being surrounded by that incredible scene.

Play with your kids

If you have children like me, play with them. This will not only help you overcome negative thinking, but it will also do the same for your kids. What you decide to do with them will vary quite a bit depending on their ages and personalities, but do something that they would enjoy. In fact, consider simply asking what they would like to do, and, if there’s no reason not to, do it.

This will allow them to more thoroughly enjoy the activity while you get to enjoy the benefits of selflessness combined with doing something that may be a new experience for you or, even if it’s not, something that’s still enjoyable for you.

5 Biggest Myths of Starting An Online Business From Home

If you are looking to start your first business from home, you may feel confused with many questions. How long will it take? Do I need formation to start my own business? Is it risky?

The potential of creating a business from home is so different from traditional job careers that it is easy to feel confused with these opportunities. You may think: I want to start my own business, but I don’t feel ready yet. 

At least, that is what people try to make you believe. Friends, family, and coworkers may have the best intentions to help you succeed, but they cannot guide you to make a change that they never did. Here are five limiting beliefs that you have heard over and over again and how to overcome them.

You Need Experience And Skills

People know that entrepreneurship requires a lot of initial work which can be easily confused with formation and training. Entrepreneurs work more than normal professionals because they control their results and want to reach their destination faster. 

Now, If I want to start my own business, I don’t need to be an expert at everything. All that is necessary is focusing on your strengths and hiring others to do what you don’t know. Does your idea require coding, copy-writing, advertising, or market research? Hire a freelancer to work on it while working on your business from home. It’s also possible to learn that skill as well with all the training that is available today.

The only objective of the entrepreneur is to solve problems and give value to others. That involves managing your resources and present the solution to the public. You may be surprised at how many digital entrepreneurs sell online courses and hired other people to create their content.

You don’t need technical skills as an entrepreneur, but having enough problem-solving and creativity skills to add value to others.

You Need A Lot Of Money To Start

Who would ever start a business from home without money?

Of course, you need some funding to get started but far from the same amount as you would have in a traditional business.

That is a myth that comes from traditional businesses, not online businesses. Real businesses need to hire people for each department, deal with random expenses, product creation, logistics, and whatnot. 

The best way to start my own business is to use the Internet to make others take care of those costs. There are programs such as Amazon FBA where the company lends you their customer base and delivery service for free. Some businesses require almost no money to start, such as affiliate marketing.

You may not need any investment at first, but you should eventually invest in the business to scale and grow it faster.

When I start my own business, I’ll have absolute freedom

When people start a business from home to be their own boss, they usually do it to escape from their 9-to-5 jobs. To their surprise, the initial work of an entrepreneur requires much more sacrifice and commitment than being an employee.

Again, entrepreneurs don’t run away from problems but solve them. You cannot become successful with an Escape mentality.

The degree of freedom than you get is relative to the business model that you choose. If you start a business from home, it will generate passive income and give you freedom at some point. The part that people don’t get is the enormous work required at the beginning.

Of course, freedom is one of the objectives to start a business from home. Everybody can start a business, but only people who understand the process can win. You should only commit to these projects if you can understand and deal with the compromise. 

It Is Too Risky

The biggest shift from 9-to-5 jobs to entrepreneurship is the perception of risk. As a worker, there are many things out of your control: your boss, the economy, your health, your paycheck, or your coworkers.
Any mistake that you make as an employee can lead to terrible scenarios.

If I start my own business, things change. You increase your success chance with every mistake because you get experience, new things, and condition your mindset.

Successful employees need to do everything right without mistakes for forty years. Successful entrepreneurs only need to get it right once to win in business. Which one would you take?

I can start my own business and chase money regardless of value

Some people never understand the way businesses work because they only use consumer mentality. The producer mentality is about creating value with a product or service and make money with it. Value is about helping people by solving THEIR problems and giving THEM benefits.

That is right. People give money when they get something, regardless of their own interests and passions. If you want to do what you love, you should make sure that your passion has enough demand first. The priority is thinking about others, so you can eventually have enough freedom to do what you love.

If you want to learn more about the digital landscape and how to build your own business online you can get started here.