overcome negative thinking

To People That Want To Start Overcome Negative Thinking

Negative thinking results in so many, well, negative outcomes. Not only does it cause the things that we’re negatively thinking about to be more apt to come true, but it also cripples our ability to enjoy anything and drains our energy. Fortunately, all is not doom and gloom.

You have the power to overcome negative thinking. Doing so may not occur overnight, but, bit by bit, you can gradually experience more positive thinking to counterbalance the predominantly negative thinking that you currently suffer from. 

Think of negative thoughts like a bucket filled with water. The bucket is the brain and the water is all of your emotions anger, joy, happiness, sadness. The negative thinking is like holes in the bucket which drains your energy. What is left is nothing more than emptiness. But there are ways to fill those holes.

Closure Letters

I have not actually done this myself but I have heard it be an awesome way to clear your head. So, if you’re struggling because of ways that others have negatively impacted you, consider writing closure letters. You don’t need to send them, and, in some cases, you shouldn’t, but simply writing them will help you get your feelings out and start to move on from them, from what had occurred to you. When you do this, be clearheaded and sober.

Although it may prove impossible to remove all emotionality from what you’re doing, do your best to think of this person and what occurred in more rational, objective ways. But do write from your heart too. Also, consider forgiving this person if you want to, but only if you want to, and apologizing if there is a reason to do so. 

Gratitude For What You Have

It’s understandable for it to be difficult to look at the positive things going on in your life when it feels like your mind is overwhelmed with negative thoughts, but do your best to. Think of the things that you are grateful for. Perhaps you have a roof over your head and enough money coming in to eat. You have a family that cares for you.

If so, be thankful for that. Having others who care for you is another reason to practice gratefulness. Simply being alive is one too. Embrace the small things as well. Do you often pass an area with beautiful greenery but had never appreciated it because you got so used to it? Now’s the time to start doing so. 

Create a morning routine. This is my own routine I do each day when I wake up.

1. Drink a glass of water
2. Meditate for 5-10 min
3. Writing down three things I’m grateful for
4. Writing 5 min in my journal about one good experience in the last 24 hours.
5. Reading

Exercise

Exercise can be a great way to overcome negative thinking. This does come with a caveat, however. You should be wary of doing too much exercise too soon as burnout will have the opposite effect.

However, exercising in a manner that you’re comfortable with and is not significantly more than you currently do can do wonders for your mood as exercise, in more cases than not, causes lower levels of anxiety and depression, deeper sleep and more relaxation. Find a type of exercise that you enjoy to increase the odds that it’ll be something that you’ll want to continue doing for the long haul, making this a long-term mood improver. 

Take time for the things that you love

Make sure to set time aside for the things that you love. If you find yourself not enjoying much of anything anymore, consider revisiting things that you used to love as well as seeking out new experiences to see if something different will result in a newfound love. Note that there’s no such thing as a love that’s too small or inconsequential. If you love it, you love it. 

Eating healthy

Just like exercise, eating healthy can do so much good in helping you overcome negative thinking as your diet has a profound impact on your emotional state. Think of food for your brain like fuel for your car. You want high-quality fuel so that your car runs well.

You should want the same for your brain. Foods to avoid are processed and refined foods as well as those high in sugar. Focus on fruits, vegetables, and lean meats to help you overcome negative thinking. 

Give

Although giving to others without asking for anything in return is a selfless act, the giver does get to experience positive health benefits too. Scientifically, this act activates the mesolimbic system, which results in greater levels of self-esteem and satisfaction with life.

Note that these benefits are much more likely to be felt by those who are truly volunteering – i.e. they’re not doing so because it’s required for one reason or another. 

Nature walks

I love taking time and being in nature. Going for a walk in a natural setting can do such good for your mental state and help you overcome negative thinking. In fact, some say that this is the absolute best thing that you can do to improve your mood.

Doing this is especially recommended if you recently experienced a traumatic life event as studies have shown that the benefits of a nature walk on those individuals are even more pronounced. When you go out into natural settings, do your best to get lost in the moment, in being surrounded by that incredible scene.

Play with your kids

If you have children like me, play with them. This will not only help you overcome negative thinking, but it will also do the same for your kids. What you decide to do with them will vary quite a bit depending on their ages and personalities, but do something that they would enjoy. In fact, consider simply asking what they would like to do, and, if there’s no reason not to, do it.

This will allow them to more thoroughly enjoy the activity while you get to enjoy the benefits of selflessness combined with doing something that may be a new experience for you or, even if it’s not, something that’s still enjoyable for you.

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4 Actionable Tips How To Find Your Purpose

Are you struggling to find your purpose in life? Do you feel like you’re stuck in the wrong place, the wrong job, the wrong relationships? You’re not alone. So many people find themselves wondering what they can do to begin living a more authentic life. 

If you feel you’re on the wrong path, there are some very specific strategies you can use to help you find your way. All of these strategies are based on coming to know yourself more consciously. They help you identify and focus on your strengths and your past successes. 

Once you clearly see the things that you do well and enjoy, you can begin to identify where they intersect with opportunities. This point of intersection, where who you are and what you do come together, is your purpose in life.

This is where you’ll find the people you’re supposed to be with, the work you’re supposed to be doing, and the life satisfaction you’ve been longing for. Try one or all of the four following strategies, and you’ll begin to find your purpose.  I found these 4 ways to be very effective.

Ikgai

Ikgai is a Japanese word that’s translated as “reason for being.” The Japanese believe that everyone has an ikgai and that searching for it is a worthy and respected journey. 

Ikigai

Your ikgai rests at the point where four elements of your life overlap and this is where you’ll find your purpose. 

• Your passion. 
• Your mission.
• Your vocation.
• Your profession.

Your passion consists of the things you love. You may have one overriding passion, or you may have a few. Whatever you’re passionate about, it’s inevitable that it will be integrated into your ikgai. 

Your mission is what you have to contribute to the well-being of the world. Don’t be intimidated by this. It doesn’t have to be on the level of world peace. There are many people who live in small, quiet lives that nevertheless make the world a better place. Whether your area of influence in your neighborhood or your planet, the world needs you. 

Your vocation includes the things you do well. These may be specific job duties, or they may be more nebulous. Drafting perfect mechanical drawings maybe your vocation, or being able to tell where a wine was produced by taste alone, or making people feel included. Any of these could be a part of your ikgai.

Your profession includes the things that someone is willing to pay you to do. “Finding your bliss” is well and good, but it doesn’t pay the rent. 

Once you’ve identified the four elements for yourself, you can begin to see how they intersect. Your goal is to find a purpose that includes all four elements. You can follow this ikgai and find spiritual fulfillment, even in times when things seem dark. 

The Five Years, Four Squares Plan

This method uses your vision of the future to find your purpose. The first step is to take a piece of letter-sized paper and fold it in half. Then fold it again so that it’s divided into four squares.

Think about the four areas of your life that you value the most. These may be “family,” or “career” or “health.” Write one value at the top of each square. The next step is to think about where you want each of these areas to be after five years. 

Once you have your five-year goals, you need to write a step-by-step plan to get there from where you are now. Keep this paper close to you, and review it when you awaken each morning and before you go to sleep each night. Don’t be afraid to change the steps if you need to redirect yourself. You’ll find your purpose not only in the destination but in the steps it took to get there. 

The Hierarchy of Job Satisfaction 

If you look at all the jobs you’ve had in your life, you’ll be able to think about aspects of them that you did or didn’t like. That’s the purpose of creating a hierarchy of job satisfaction. 

First, make a list of every job you’ve ever had along one side of a sheet of paper. Next, put a happy smiley at the top of the other side, a neutral face in the middle and a sad face at the bottom. 

Look at each job, and put the positive and negative aspects along the “smiley scale” that you’ve created. Write the words for each job, even if they’re already there from one of the other jobs. Take some time with this task, and try to go deeper than the obvious. “Teamwork; everyone did their share” is more helpful than “liked the people I worked with.”

When you’re finished listing the job qualities, count up how many times you used each word or phrase. You’ll be able to clearly see which specific job characteristics bring satisfaction and fulfillment and which make you dread going to work. You’ll know that you’ve found your purpose when the work you’re doing has the qualities you enjoy and lacks the ones that drag you down. 

The Outside Advice Strategy

Self-analysis has its limits. Sometimes you need an outside perspective to help you find your purpose, and asking your friends for their insights can be tremendously helpful. 

For this strategy, you’ll need to draft an email to send to your friends. Ask them to respond to the following questions and explain their suggestions, if they can. 

• What do you consider to be my biggest passions? How have you seen me express these?
• What do you think my greatest talents and strengths are? How have you seen me use them?
• Have you ever thought I would be particularly good at some career or activity? Why?
• What skill do I possess that you would pay me to teach you? Why?

Your friends may be able to make you see things about yourself in a new, surprising way. You may find your purpose in a place you weren’t even looking. 

I hope this helps, at least this will give you some ideas about what you want to focus on.

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